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True power comes from being real, not from being in control.

Wholeness is not a static state of being. It is a continuous process of growing and learning. It is the journey of evolving into a greater expression of your true self and the joy that is experienced in the expression of that truth.

Fulfillment comes not from reaching a goal or arriving at an end point (death?). It comes from total immersion in the process itself. Being present for the journey, with its myriad ups and downs, is the joy of being alive. When we strive to be rather than to do or to complete, we can truly experience what it means to be a spiritual being expressing in this earthly world.

If we can remember that we are light beings given the gift of human experience—in order to know and express ourselves in unique ways—we can experience more gratitude for this gift. And if we convey that gratitude to others through our communications and actions, our surroundings will be filled with more light. This light will spread and also be reflected back on us.

Pay it forward. When good comes to us, we are more likely to spread the cheer. Likewise, when we put out positive energy and ideas, other people are more likely to respond in kind. Plus, we feel better when we express positive thoughts instead of negative ones, regardless of any external response.

I think anyone who drives a car has been in traffic and felt annoyed about another person’s driving skills (and I use the word “skills” loosely). Have you ever noticed how it feels when you verbally express that annoyance? I know for me it feels bad enough to be annoyed, but when I call them names out loud, even though no one can hear me, I feel even worse! And I think, “Shouldn’t that make me feel better? I just expressed my feelings!” Well, the answer is, No. I didn’t express who I am or even how I truly feel underneath the annoyance. I just spewed negativity towards an unknowing individual who has no clue who I am or how I feel.

There is really no benefit from the outburst. Imagine if the other person could hear. That would feel even worse, because not only would the negative energy be out there, someone would be taking the direct hit. Then they would feel bad and spew out their own negative energy. This can go on and on until someone puts a stop to it. On a small scale, we call it an argument. On a large scale, we call it war. Either way, it’s hurtful and unproductive.

We all do it on a small scale, and it’s not usually about the thing we react to. Sometimes it’s easier to react to something small like traffic, drivers, or your significant other leaving dirty dishes in the sink. Maybe if you left earlier for work you wouldn’t be in such a hurry on your commute. Maybe it’s even deeper, and you are frustrated with your job and you resent having to go at all (hence the passive-aggressive leaving home late). Maybe you had a rough day and you couldn’t express it to the people at your job, so when you got home you became annoyed at your loved ones, where you feel safe to express that frustration.

When we become more aware of our feelings and the layers we create for functioning, we can more easily discern response from reaction. For me, when I jump at my husband for little frustrations, I am aware that I am reacting. That doesn’t stop me from reacting sometimes. Of course, I would love to control my surroundings so they stay just the way I like, but where would the growth be in that?

Insulating yourself from having your buttons pushed or from conflict of any kind doesn’t keep you safe. It keeps you stagnant. It produces the false feeling of safety that comes from staying in your comfort zone. I can’t imagine any of us coming to the end of our lives and saying, “Wow, that was a great life. I stayed in my comfort zone and felt safe. Bravo for me!”

Being willing to have our buttons pushed, to have loved ones who call us out on our stuff and don’t let us get away with it. Being willing to go beyond blame and take responsibility for our lives, our actions and reactions. Being willing to venture beneath the noise to our true selves, where our power is sourced. That is the joy of the journey.

True power comes from being real, not from being in control. It comes from the courage to venture out of our comfort zones to the adventurous paths of our souls’ journeys. It’s not about perfection and “if only.” It’s about being present to your Self and embracing where you are and how you express in each moment. That is true honesty and integrity—to hold yourself to actions consistent with your truth.

Sarah A. Sporn – The Evolving Intuitive

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